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Just a little bit of background for those of you who weren't here in 2008. Dan and I retired from our well-paying and often satisfying jobs in the States to come to Cebu to help my parents in the ministry. We also left behind our children and grandchildren. Many of our friends and family--on both sides--told us we were NUTS to leave behind our good life in the States. We knew what we were giving up but, at the time, we felt the Lord calling us here because my Dad had been very sick (2005 and 2006) and almost died and my Mom wasn't getting any younger and she was always asking us, "When are you coming?" So, we really did feel like this is where the Lord wanted us to be.
Of course, life never turns out the way you'd like it to. We arrived in June 2008 and by January 2010--18 months later--my Mom passed away. I really did not expect my Mom to die so soon. There are still times when I think about what would have happened if we were here when she had had that final asthma attack in December 2009. Would she still be alive? Could an inhaler have saved her and given her those precious 10 minutes that would have allowed her to reach the hospital in time and not lose precious oxygen? We'll never know, but I still ask myself those questions and it makes me very sad that we weren't here to maybe make a difference during that time.
We know that God has His reasons for allowing things to happen. We know that our birth and our death have been ordained and planned from the very beginning. But, that doesn't make it any easier to accept when it happens to us!
I think that, in many ways, my Mom was the ultimate Proverbs 31 woman. Let's take a look at some of those characteristics:
* Her husband can trust her (vs. 11-12). She will do him good for life (v. 22)--I know this to be true of my Mom and my Dad.
* She is enterprising and industrious. My Mom worked with her hands. She wasn't afraid to get her hands dirty. She loved to garden and work with plants.
* She is an early riser (v. 15). My Mom was usually up before the maids! She managed the kitchen wisely.
* She is hard working (vs. 16-19). She has artistic hands (v. 19). She weaves and sews. She didn't complain about her heavy workload.
* She is an honor to her husband (v. 23). To "sit in the gates" means to be in a position of leadership (Gen 19:1; Prov 12:4). An honorable wife enhances the honor of her husband. This is where my Mom excelled! She took great care of my Dad. She made my Dad look good. She was his best adviser who helped him see the other (more human) side of a situation or a decision. She was my Dad's strong moral compass. I firmly believe that this is the greatest influence we have on our husband--being their strong moral compass.
* She has integrity (vs. 25-28). From my Dad's annotation on this passage, we read:
> Strength and honor are her clothing (v. 25). “Strength” is from oz which means “inner power” (Ps. 63:2). “Honor” is from hadar which could mean "majesty" (Ps. 29:4) or "beauty" (Prov. 20:29). The Hebrew construction should be more literally translated, “honor of strength.” Her honor is her strength.
> Her words are words of wisdom and she is bound by the law of kindness (v. 26).
> She is not lazy, but is diligent in taking care of the needs of her family (v. 27).
> The children have deep admiration for her and her husband has nothing but praise for her (v. 28).
* She excels in all areas of life (vs 29-31). The reason she excels is because she fears the Lord. When favour and beauty are undergirded by the fear of the Lord, then that wife is truly a virtuous woman.
When we leave in October, it's uncertain when we will return. First of all, we have to take care of Dan's physical problems. We don't know what the doctors over there will find out about his condition. So, that's the biggest factor.
Another is the condition of our kids and grandkids. Maybe we need to do our apostolic ministry for awhile... Whatever happens, we want you to know--straight from our lips and our hearts--that we love all of you. We are extremely concerned about what's happening in the church right now We know things are very different now and not necessarily in a good way. We will be praying for you while we're away. Although we feel that we need to go away for awhile, we also want you to know that our absence doesn't mean that we don't care about what's happening here or that we're abandoning you. For now, we just want to be open to God's leading. After all,